When you are talking to a Veteran and they tell you they've been to war, be considerate. Rather than the first question out of your mouth being, "what was it like", first ask them if they would be willing/able to talk about it. A lot of people can't talk about it because the flashbacks associated with their PTSD are too real.
deployment and war, like with anything, is what you make of it. No
matter the situation, I try to find the silver lining. It may take me
some time to find the light and get to a point high enough where I can
look down to look for that silver lining, but in the back of my head, I
know it's there.
When I get overwhelmed and it all
seems like it's just too much to bare...I close my eyes, take a deep
breath...and get my hands dirty.